10 years of marriage is quite a feat, especially in the world today.
Marriage has become disposable; it is hard and requires effort from each spouse.
But I can’t imagine throwing a person away. Throwing years, time, and experiences in the trash.
What I have learned in this last decade is that people give up on each other, and themselves, too easily.
I actually knew that before now, but it’s more apparent after fighting for us, and how many times I have been commended for our marriage lasting even 10 years.
The first few years were really rough on us for reasons that weren’t entirely in our control, and some that were.
The years that followed had their ups and downs, but the last several years have been uphill.
We have had to learn forgiveness, patience, grace, and mercy for each other, ourselves, and our circumstances.
Above all, we had to trust God and His purpose for our union and lives.
Marriage is so beautiful- God chose a single person for whom you share the deepest intimacies, your quirks, and desires.
Our marriage has been flourishing because we communicate, apologize, take responsibility, love each other beyond measure, without a tally sheet, and go out of our way to make sure we are taking care of the other one.
It’s compromise, sacrifice and sometimes really exhausting-and ever growing!
But it’s also home, safety, and comfort.
I love being the wife that takes care of her husband’s home and makes it a place he wants to be.
And he is a husband that helps.
I also never go without feeling as though I am his sun, moon, and stars.
I didn’t pray for this husband. I didn’t know I needed to, but God was so gracious to me, and I have been blessed with a man who is so kind, giving, selfless, and honorable.
I pray daily for us now. I know God brought us together and God has kept us going.
Marriage is work. Good work. Some of the best work.
Over time we have learned so much more about each other I didn’t know it was possible.
I don’t typically give anyone insight to this piece of us.
We don’t need to put our marriage on display for others-we know what we have.
But it’s a decade. It’s a big deal.
And I want to offer encouragement to anyone going through a hard season.
And my husband deserves the appreciation and the recognition for being so incredibly amazing.
This is the kind of man I pray our son grows up to be like- and even better.
A day does not go by that I don’t feel every ounce of love he has to give. I never have to question him.
But this is not a magical marriage it is a divine union meant just for us and we take it seriously.
It is the most important relationship we have.
I’m so excited to see where the next 10 years take us!